Pride has a special and individual meaning to each member of the DSG community, we hold Pride within ourselves and it grows to become part of the person we were meant to be.
Today we’re talking about Pride with Adam, who is a law student from Sydney and a proud Queer POC.
What does pride mean to you as someone as a Queer POC?
As a black person, it means that I spend a lot of time thinking about how — if you’ll pardon the pun — there’s more than one colour in the rainbow. In fact, that’s always been the case: the sex and gender diverse pioneers who have made it so much easier for organisations like Start Out to exist were black people; they were people of colour.
Pride means being proud of that history, but it also means writing the next chapter in history: we have to make it more welcoming, safer, and — in all senses of the word — more rainbow than ever before.
How do you celebrate pride?
I’ve learned that pride can be celebrated in a million different ways. For me, sometimes that looks like putting on some makeup and a wig, while other times it might just be leaving the house in a rainbow t shirt or with painted nails.
More often than I’d like to admit, celebrating pride means rambling to people about my favourite gay artist (it’s Keith Haring, if anyone was wondering).
Sometimes, it means chatting with my sex and gender diverse friends about issues that impact the queer community, but sometimes it means chatting about funny gay memes.
I’m always discovering new ways to celebrate pride.
Who are your DSG role models?
Sex, sexuality, and gender diverse role models exist everywhere.
For me, those role models are people like Sydney drag artist Etcetera Etcetera, who fights for justice with the same passion they put into their work.
They’re people like visual artist Samuel Leighton-Dore, who does brilliant work to help remind sex and gender diverse people, young and old alike, that their identities are valid.
Another role model is Benjamin Law, who I find such a reassuring presence in the overwhelmingly white, overwhelmingly straight media scene in Australia: he serves as a reminder that it’s possible to break through barriers.
I look up to Billy Porter, who has helped teach not only me, but a generation of black sex, sexuality,and gender diverse people that it’s okay — and even empowering — to be both unapologetically black and unapologetically queer.
And, finally, while I know this sounds like a cop out, I promise it’s true: my most important DSG role models are my friends and the people I surround myself with.
If you could say anything to your younger self – what would it be?
I think a younger me would be relieved to hear that I’d grow up in a community of sex, sexuality, and gender diverse people who are uplifting and supportive. I’d tell myself not to lose hope in those sorts of relationships.
I’d also say to a younger Adam: there’s no need to come out before you’re ready. Take the time to understand what you’re feeling and thinking, and know that it isn’t wrong.
By the way — there’s no need to train yourself to keep your hands stiffly by your sides: the limp wrists are fine, I promise.
You’ve got to stop straightening your hair, though. It’s not a look.